When I look at "to love their husbands" in the verses above,
I must ask, What is Love?
I love food, tea, my cozy bed.
I love my children, my parents, and my enemies.
I love a good game of scrabble,
my horse, and visits with friends.
The English language fails us when
we have only one word to describe
the many differing feelings associated with strong emotion, that which we call love.
If you have been around Biblical preaching much,
you have probably heard the Greek terms for love,
Phileo and Agape.
Phileo describes a tender love between close friends.
Agape refers to a self sacrificing love.
It is a love that gives to others even if nothing is given back. Which do you think Paul used in this verse (4) to describe the love a wife has for her husband?
Answer: The tender, affectionate,
passionate kind of love that emphasizes
enjoyment and respect between close friends:
Are you surprised?
Agape is the term Paul used
when he said for husbands to love their wives (Eph. 6).
Too often, we as wives fail to understand
what God requires of us, and therefore love our husbands
how ever we see fit.
We can easily become so preoccupied
with the duties and responsibilities of our homes
that we fail to nurture tenderness and passion
in our relationship with our beloved.
Or, we can become so busy serving him,
that we overlook enjoying him.
By loving our husband with a Phileo love,
we bring honor to the gospel.
Such love is lived out regardless of his response.
It is unconditional, and God honoring.
To "Phileo" your husband is the very reason you were made. You are his companion first; his helper.
Remember, it was not good for man to be alone. (Gen. 2) What he truly needed was a best friend to share
his life journey, his hopes and dreams, his soul.
This is the high and noble calling of a godly wife.
"Can you imagine anything that sets forth the gospel more brilliantly before the world than the godly behavior of a woman who passionately adores her husband, tenderly cherishes her children, who creates a warm and peaceful home, who exemplifies purity, self control, and kindness in her character and who gladly submits to her husband's leadership? " -Carolyn Mahaney, Feminine Appeal, pg 29